Wellness Wednesdays, and making time for me

You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day. Unless you are too busy; then you should sit for an hour.

Zen proverb

A friend shared this proverb with me a long time ago, and I often think of it when I am struggling with my own meditation practice, dietary habits, and all the other things that I try and prioritise because I believe they make a difference to my wellbeing.

There is no denying that we live in an incredibly fast-paced world. The level of expectation on all of us to achieve and to ‘do’, is crazy, and finding the space to slow down and take time out for ourselves is becoming increasingly difficult. However, I do also think that it is our own responsibility to choose what we prioritise. The phrase “I don’t have time for that” is one of my biggest bug-bears, even though I catch myself saying it often, if not out loud then at least in my head. Because what we really mean when we say “I don’t have time for that”, is “that’s not a priority for me”. How can I tell myself I don’t have the time for meditation today while watching dog videos on facebook or googling some shit that I really have no need to google? And when I write it on my blog it sounds totally ridiculous and stupid, but it is a genuine struggle to make time for the things that really matter when technology provides us with constant distractions.

There are lots of things I try to prioritise in order to help my health. This includes eating a paleo diet, which means cooking pretty much everything from scratch and very few shortcut meals like pizza or sandwiches or pasta. It includes regular meditation which I know has a positive effect on my stress levels and therefore on my health. I have found that the key to a successful regular meditation practice is setting aside the same time every day in which to do it. But this brings its own challenges, especially since the only time I reliably have free every day is first thing in the morning. And getting up half an hour earlier is all well and good when I’m feeling well, but when I am sick and literally feel like I have the flu, it’s not so easy. Stress is a huge trigger for my health and so I try really hard to not overdo it, to keep at least a couple of evenings every week free in my diary for rest and recuperation, and to allow myself plenty of downtime. But this becomes increasingly difficult the better I feel. If I’m having a good day or a good week then I want to do absolutely everything right now – I want to embrace the good and make the most of it, because I know there is a good chance tomorrow won’t be so good.

I am grateful that chronic illness has shown me the importance of looking after myself. I am grateful that I know how to take care of myself and that I have the resources to do so. But, I am still human after all. I still have a job, a house to look after, a relationship to nurture, friendships to cherish, rabbits to take care of… as well as all the stresses of chronic illness.

So this week I have introduced ‘Wellness Wednesdays’ into my life! This is one day of the week where I promise to myself – no social media, no excessive scrolling through google, no rushing around like a headless chicken. Today I have meditated, I have eaten well, I have rested, and I have chosen to prioritise the things that nourish me. That’s not to say I won’t try to do all of those things again tomorrow. I try to do them every day, but I also accept that it is not always easy. Wellness Wednesdays is an opportunity for me to remind myself of what really matters. To prioritise me. I would love to have some company in my quest for Wellness Wednesdays, so if you fancy joining in, message me! 

My go-to homemade deodorant

I recently posted about my quest for a natural lifestyle, free from as many harsh ingredients as possible. I’ve always been very sensitive to commercial products. I have countless memories throughout my life of allergic reactions to various products. Like the time my eyes swelled almost completely shut after having makeup applied for a dance show when I was about 7. Or walking around London on a sweltering hot summer’s day aged 12 with the most unbearable itchy rash (the kind where it’s ALL you can think about) from a plaster I had worn the day before. To the beginning of this year, aged 27, when my face and neck broke out in a hives-like rash from using a particular brand of washing powder.

I find it kind of weird how, in our 21st century lives, these sorts of immune reactions have become something fairly unimportant, benign even. How many people just take an antihistamine or buy some cream when they get a skin reaction, hoping it’ll go away and not really worrying about what’s causing it? I know I was certainly guilty of that in the past. Use product – get rash – use another product to hide rash – repeat. But as I get older, and as I care more and more about truly looking after my body, these sorts of things really bother me. A rash is one way my body can tell me it’s not very happy with what I’m doing, and since I’m never going to get another body, it probably makes sense to pay attention to it.

There is a principle in yoga called Ahimsa, which roughly translated means “not to injure”. It is a core principle of yoga philosophy: non-violence, to any living beings. I remember my yoga teacher saying that Ahimsa begins within. First, do no harm to yourself. I feel like this is a principle that we have lost sight of in our fast-paced, hectic Western lives. We do whatever is cheapest, quickest and most convenient, rather than what is best for us. Fast food, 30 minutes on the treadmill, big brands at the supermarket, and pre-packaged toiletries full of nasties.

But the truth is, natural alternatives really don’t have to break the bank or take hours to prepare. And what’s more – they actually work! One of the first things I made when I started making my own products was deodorant. It is probably one of the quickest and most effective homemade products I’ve tried, so I thought it’d be a good one to share.

Off-the-shelf deodorant or antipersperant typically contains a whole host of ingredients with potentially damaging effects on the human body. As an example, the SkinDeep website shows that a Sure anti-persperant contains ingredients that studies have shown are associated with cancer, skin irritation, lung irritation, harm to unborn babies, hormone disruption, and many other things. My homemade deodorant contains 3 ingredients, all of which score a 1 (the lowest risk rating) on SkinDeep, and which, as far as I’m aware, have no evidence of any harmful effects at all.

Deodorant feels like quite a risky recipe to be the first to share on my blog. It’s pretty full-on hippy isn’t it, making your own deodorant? Plus, it’s not necessarily the kind of thing you want to experiment with. You have a bodged bottle of body wash or moisturiser and it’s really not the end of the world, but let’s face it, no-one wants to walk around smelling of BO.

I hear you. I was so sceptical that homemade deodorant could possibly do anything for my pits, that for the first two weeks of using it I carried my old deodorant around in my handbag, just in case I suddenly started smelling. But I have been using it for over a year now and can honestly say it is more effective than any shop-bought deodorant I’ve ever used, including the old brand I used to swear by that claims to prevent odours for up to 48 hours.

So here it is, my homemade deodorant!

Ingredients

  • 2 1/2 tablespoons coconut oil
  • 2 tablespoons bicarbonate of soda
  • 2 tablespoons cornflour or arrowroot powder
  • Optional: 5-10 drops of essential oils (*see below for my favourites).

Method

    • Put the coconut oil in a small bowl and mash it up with the back of a spoon. Don’t melt in the microwave because it’ll reduce the effectiveness of the deodorant (I have no idea why this would be, but just trust me on this one…!)
    • Add the bicarbonate of soda and cornflour/arrowroot, and mix until you have a thick paste.
    • If desired, add a few drops of essential oils. My favourites are tea tree and peppermint oil because they have a fresh, clean scent, as well as having antibacterial & antifungal properties . I also often use citronella, which is a natural deodoriser.

Put the paste into a jar or container of some description. When you want to use, take a pea-sized blob and rub it into each underarm.

Voila! No stinky pits. If you try this out, let me know how you get on!