You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day. Unless you are too busy; then you should sit for an hour.
A friend shared this proverb with me a long time ago, and I often think of it when I am struggling with my own meditation practice, dietary habits, and all the other things that I try and prioritise because I believe they make a difference to my wellbeing.
There is no denying that we live in an incredibly fast-paced world. The level of expectation on all of us to achieve and to ‘do’, is crazy, and finding the space to slow down and take time out for ourselves is becoming increasingly difficult. However, I do also think that it is our own responsibility to choose what we prioritise. The phrase “I don’t have time for that” is one of my biggest bug-bears, even though I catch myself saying it often, if not out loud then at least in my head. Because what we really mean when we say “I don’t have time for that”, is “that’s not a priority for me”. How can I tell myself I don’t have the time for meditation today while watching dog videos on facebook or googling some shit that I really have no need to google? And when I write it on my blog it sounds totally ridiculous and stupid, but it is a genuine struggle to make time for the things that really matter when technology provides us with constant distractions.
There are lots of things I try to prioritise in order to help my health. This includes eating a paleo diet, which means cooking pretty much everything from scratch and very few shortcut meals like pizza or sandwiches or pasta. It includes regular meditation which I know has a positive effect on my stress levels and therefore on my health. I have found that the key to a successful regular meditation practice is setting aside the same time every day in which to do it. But this brings its own challenges, especially since the only time I reliably have free every day is first thing in the morning. And getting up half an hour earlier is all well and good when I’m feeling well, but when I am sick and literally feel like I have the flu, it’s not so easy. Stress is a huge trigger for my health and so I try really hard to not overdo it, to keep at least a couple of evenings every week free in my diary for rest and recuperation, and to allow myself plenty of downtime. But this becomes increasingly difficult the better I feel. If I’m having a good day or a good week then I want to do absolutely everything right now – I want to embrace the good and make the most of it, because I know there is a good chance tomorrow won’t be so good.
I am grateful that chronic illness has shown me the importance of looking after myself. I am grateful that I know how to take care of myself and that I have the resources to do so. But, I am still human after all. I still have a job, a house to look after, a relationship to nurture, friendships to cherish, rabbits to take care of… as well as all the stresses of chronic illness.
So this week I have introduced ‘Wellness Wednesdays’ into my life! This is one day of the week where I promise to myself – no social media, no excessive scrolling through google, no rushing around like a headless chicken. Today I have meditated, I have eaten well, I have rested, and I have chosen to prioritise the things that nourish me. That’s not to say I won’t try to do all of those things again tomorrow. I try to do them every day, but I also accept that it is not always easy. Wellness Wednesdays is an opportunity for me to remind myself of what really matters. To prioritise me. I would love to have some company in my quest for Wellness Wednesdays, so if you fancy joining in, message me!